Assertiveness
(the five steps of ...+)

I’ve been a practicing psychologist in an outpatient setting for over twenty-five years. I run into eight conditions or "issues" almost every day (addictions, anxiety, ADHD/learning disabilities, assertiveness, children’s behaviors, mood disorders, relationships and self-esteem).   Assertiveness is important unto itself, but plays a very strong role in the other seven areas.   Usually, when people are assertive, the problems in each of these groups diminish. Assertiveness is a skill that everyone needs and uses to some degree, in just about every situation. 

It turns out assertiveness can be taught to almost everyone.   I’ve taught it to children as young as two.   Older adults can learn new tricks, too, including this one.   I’ve taught assertiveness to schizophrenics.   I even got a Brazilian teenager to learn it without me being able to speak Portuguese (I taught him non-verbally).   Anyone can learn to be assertive.

I’ve read most of the pop-psychology literature on assertiveness over the last 20+ years.  Many of the books are excellent. They, like this ebook deal with a variety of assertivness aspects; for example, they talk about this peak experience for self--handling other assertive people, not feeling vulnerable or subservience, taking an assertiveness exam, standing up for yourself, competently assessing yourself and others, developing verbal assertiveness skills and self confidence, feeling self assured and expressing yourself and your opinions, feeling comfortable being outspoken, even being opinionated, how to stop being a human doormat, how to stop feeling intimidated and to deal with domineering people, being straightforward, stopping people from walking all over you, how to stop feeling inhibited, insecure, hesitant, and so on.

Most of these books are too long to cover this relatively simple subject.   I’ve boiled down the concepts in these books into the basic five steps, plus.   I’ve made this as easy to understand as is humanly possible, combining what I’ve read with what I’ve learned from clients.  
    
There are five basic steps of and three levels of assertiveness. I explain the difference between assertiveness, non-assertiveness, passivity, and passive aggression.

To be assertive, you have to know the difference between content and process in your communication. You have to know how to "articulate the process" using just the right words, which I supply (almost eight hundred). This latter idea is the one thing that will increase your assertiveness fifty percent, even if you do nothing else. It's also something you can learn in under two minutes.

I describe the two general categories of excuses and the seven most common reasons used to justify not being assertive. Then I describe thirteen points that make assertiveness effective. I sprinkle examples throughout the ebook, but include another section at the end with several more in-depth examples.

Like my other ebooks, this one has no fat. Think of it as a "Cliffs Notes" publication. It's "sort of" a quick read (about an hour or two). I have to explain only a few new terms, because there are new ideas and the terms you probably already know are put together in new ways. The theory I espouse is different from standard "behavior change" books. It works better and is very simple to understand. That's the point of an ebook. My research has not turned up another ebook that does what mine does.

(Many people want to sample an author's work before they buy an ebook. This makes sense, so... I included some links to articles I've written on this particular subject. These are one-page articles written for the general public that reveal different aspects of this and related subjects. These articles are posted in various Article Directories on the Internet, or just on other pages on this website; both of which are very popular ways of disseminating information. The articles will give the reader a sample of my writing style. To access these articles, look on the menu bar on the right, near the top of this webpage. You will see menu buttons (Article #1, Article #2, etc.). Each links you to a different article. You can peruse the article(s), and then click the "Back" button on the top left of your browser to return to this page.)

Ebooks are replacing standard books because they are quicker and easier to obtain. There is a need for immediate information, reasonably priced. I've priced this ebook to be at least twenty percent undermarket, considering what bookstores charge and the travel costs to and from. The ebook is 24 pages and can be immediately downloaded. The price is:

$12.95

Click on the button below and follow the links. After you've presented your credit card information (or Pay Pal), you'll receive a link to the download page. The title of this ebook is:

The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)

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This publication will be presented in PDF format, which means you will need Adobe Acrobat Reader. It's free and here's the link to get it:

http://www.adobe.com/products/acrobat/readstep2.html

Print out a copy, but save it to disk!!! If there is some unforseen problem with transmission, send me an email (stgbiz@cox.net) and I'll send it to you as an attachment. One way or another I'll make sure you get what you paid for, even if I have to mail it by hand (in which case, include your name and mailing address in the email).

***Policy:   If you are a current client and absolutely cannot afford to purchase any of my ebooks, but think they will help, send me an email requesting which ebook(s) you want, and I will return your email with the ebook(s) attached.   The current purchase prices cover the cost of this website, which isn’t much, which is why the ebooks are inexpensive.   But I’d rather have someone who really wants or needs to read my ebook(s) have them at no cost, than to have someone who needs them not read them because of money.   Let your conscience be your guide, but if you meet these criteria, send me an email.   You don’t have to identify yourself and there will be no questions asked. 

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