Assertiveness
I’ve been a practicing psychologist in an outpatient setting for over twenty years. I run into eight conditions or "issues" almost every day (addictions, anxiety, ADHD/learning disabilities, assertiveness, children’s behaviors, mood disorders, relationships and self-esteem). Assertiveness is important unto itself, but plays a very strong role in the other seven areas. Usually, when people are assertive, the problems in each of these groups diminish. Assertiveness is a skill that everyone needs and uses to some degree, in just about every situation.
It turns out assertiveness can be taught to almost everyone. I’ve taught it to children as young as two. Older adults can learn new tricks, too, including this one. I’ve taught assertiveness to schizophrenics. I even got a Brazilian teenager to learn it without me being able to speak Portuguese (I taught him non-verbally). Anyone can learn to be assertive.
I’ve read most of the pop-psychology literature on assertiveness over the last 20+ years. Many of the books are excellent. Most of them are too long to cover this relatively simple subject. I’ve boiled down the concepts in these books into the basic five steps, plus. I’ve made this as easy to understand as is humanly possible, combining what I’ve read with what I’ve learned from clients.
There are five basic steps of and three levels of assertiveness. I explain the difference between assertiveness, non-assertiveness, passivity, and passive aggression.
To be assertive, you have to know the difference between content and process in your communication. You have to know how to "articulate the process" using just the right words, which I supply (almost eight hundred). This latter idea is the one thing that will increase your assertiveness fifty percent, even if you do nothing else.
I describe the two general categories of excuses and the seven most common reasons used to justify not being assertive. Then I describe thirteen points that make assertiveness effective. I sprinkle examples throughout the ebook, but include another section at the end with several more in-depth examples.
Like my other ebooks, this one has no fat. Think of it as a "Cliffs Notes" publication. It's "sort of" a quick read (about an hour or two). I have to explain only a few terms you probably haven't heard before. "Behavioral types;" that is, teachers and adults with some psychology background will recognize most of the terms. The theory I espouse is different from standard "behavior change" books. It works better and is very simple to understand. That's the point of an ebook. My research has not turned up another ebook that does what mine does.
Ebooks are replacing standard books because they are quicker and easier to obtain. There is a need for immediate information, reasonably priced. I've priced this ebook to be at least twenty percent undermarket, considering what bookstores charge and the travel costs to and from. The ebook is 24 pages and can be immediately downloaded. The price is:
$12.95
Click on the button below and follow the links. After you've presented your credit card information (or Pay Pal), you'll receive a link to the download page. The title of this ebook is:
The Five Steps of Assertiveness (+)
This publication is presented in PDF format, which means you need Adobe Acrobat Reader. It's free and here's the link to get it:
http://www.downloadadobe.net/adobe-reader-download/?gclid=CLLY57zLiIsCFTIeGAodWBWWKA )
Print out a copy, but save it to disk!!! If there is some unforseen problem with transmission, send me an email (stgbiz@cox.net) and I'll send it to you as an attachment. One way or another I'll make sure you get what you paid for, even if I have to mail it by hand (in which case, include your name and mailing address in the email).
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