(A Form of Ambivalence)
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I've been a practicing psychologist in an outpatient setting for over twenty-seven years. I run into eight conditions almost every day (addictions, anxiety, ADHD/learning disabilities, assertiveness, children’s behaviors, mood disorders, relationships and self-esteem). Procrastination is not a major mental illness, but it is a "condition" we all experience. Its especially difficult when someone else procrastinates and we depend upon them to complete something on time. If you are reading this, chances are either you procrastinate or someone you know does. You probably know, first hand, the difficulties you encounter, or hear about it from others. You would like some solutions to procrastination and to know more about the disorder of procrastination. Read on.
The symptoms vary but usually include waiting until the last minute, setting appointments too late, filing taxes at midnight on April 15th, driving the car into the ground before changing the oil and getting used to the mess in the house because cleaning can wait until tomorrow. Are there dishes still in the sink from three days ago? How about that laundry?
These are all the warning signs of procrastination. Some are more dramatic and harmful, like not completing the project on time at work or turning in term papers for that cranky professor.. Others are chronic and annoying. If you have any of these signs, this ebook is for you.
In this ebook, I start out with a discussion of misconceptions about procrastinators. For example, procrastinators are really not lazy, per the stereotype. But they do have great difficulty seeking help (besides getting around to making that appointment...).
Next, I delve into what the underlying dynamics are. It turns out that procrastination is really a deficiency in resolving ambivalence, as are two other common conditions (guilt and failure to forgive). So, I examine ambivalence in depth, especially in regards to values, feelings, thoughts as they play out in our either conscious or unconscious experience. Ambivalence and its manifestations are about the conflict between these elements. The indecision and anxiety that sits atop the ambivalence is central to procrastination playing out in behavior. Understand this and you will trick yourself less and do more, more often.
This leads to a discussion of suppression and repression, in relation to time. There are lots of small examples sprinkled in the text. These are included so the reader can plug in and relate, and at the same time, determine what is normal behavior and what is not. This will help in case you are considering seeing a professional.
Many folks like a little background, so next I delve into what the researchers have found about procrastination. Its not what you think. It has to do with how we think about thinking. Here you will find terms such as hyperbolic reasoning, metacognition, present bias and time inconsistency. These are in contrast to what most people think of procrastinators--that they are immature, impulsive and passive-aggressive. (Some are, some aren't). There are some ingenious experiments that have been done that I cover. Find out about the "Stupid Monkey Brain."
Next I look at the clinical side, and how to fix procrastination. What questions to ask, and at what depth. There follows a discussion of the techniques to externalize the findings in ways that undermine procrastination.
Last, I provide two in-depth examples and go through the process of figuring out what might be going on.. Last after last, there is a reader submitted example, that is sort of a final test. (No grades are given).
Clients are very enthusiastic about this ebook, probably because everyone can use some work on this issue, especially if you happen to be in a relationship. (Living or working with a procrastinator is sometimes quite a challenge...)
Like my other publications, this ebook has no fat. It has about 30 pages. Think of it as a "Cliffs Notes" publication. It's "sort of" a quick read (about two hours for the first reading), because I have to explain some stuff using terms you probably haven't heard before. But its all laid out in everyday language, just like what you're reading now.
Nobody has published what I present as the glue that makes these concepts work. I think this is why my ebook does a better job. It's process as well as content driven. The theory I espouse is different from standard explanations or other literature in this field. It works better. I know, because I've been using it with clients for years. I've put together a hard hitting, direct "How To" manual. My research has not turned up another ebook that does what mine does.
(Many people want to sample an author's work before they buy an ebook. This makes sense, so... I included some links to articles I've written on this particular subject. These are one-page articles written for the general public that reveal different aspects of this and related subjects. These articles are posted in various Article Directories on the Internet, or just on other pages on this website; both of which are very popular ways of disseminating information. The articles will give the reader a sample of my writing style. To access these articles, look on the menu bar on the right, near the top of this webpage. You will see menu buttons (Article #1, Article #2, etc.). Each links you to a different article related to the topic of that particular page. Or, you can click on the "200+ Articles button on any webpage and you will be taken to a page describing all the articles I've written about every subject. There is a link that takes you to my blog. You can peruse the article(s) on the blog or on each individual page of this website, and then click the "Back" button on the top left of your browser to return to this page.)
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(A Form of Ambivalence)
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